Thread: Need some advice from the ladies, how should a man deal with PMS?

Lucky me. It's that time of month again where I have to tread lightly through the mine field of my wife's PMS. Usually this time of month is bearable for both of us. Usual symptoms are a bit of bloating, cramps, and negative body image. This I can deal with. Back rubs, hot pads, pain killers and plenty of reassurance gets us both through this time.

But this month a combination of being evicted from our house in a few months, buying a house and work stress have combined to bring out the Monster in PMS. This month everything I do is met with anger. Try talking to her=anger. Don't talk to her=anger. Offer her the usually stuff, back rubs, reassurance et al=anger. Even telling her I love her or she looks beautiful is met with anger.

I know I have one little reason to be happy with all this. I understand that during PMS women take out their anger on the one person they love the most. Lucky me.

So what advice can you ladies offer to a man trying to deal with PMS?

I'm not a lady, but my advice is simple. You can't stop the anger if it's the way she feels. Just don't reflect anger back. That doesn't mean you have to be a doormat, but you don't need to escalate anything by being angry back at her. Stay calm and patient, as least as best as you can.

Utopian,

Wise advice for all of us. Thank you.

Originally Posted by Utopian

I'm not a lady, but my advice is simple. You can't stop the anger if it's the way she feels. Just don't reflect anger back. That doesn't mean you have to be a doormat, but you don't need to escalate anything by being angry back at her. Stay calm and patient, as least as best as you can.

AMEN! It was an important day in my marriage when I finally realized this. I even follow this advice on occasion

My wife is sitting here next to me, and she says just to let her be angry and wait it out.

I suppose that's sound advice. She is 7+mos pregnant so I'm not going to argue with her!

No doubt you guys are under a lot of stress and that multiplies things exponentially. Keeping cool and being patient is perhaps the hardest thing to do, but the best. It doesn't sound like life is normally like this. If it is feel free to pm me. We're half way around the world, but I do marriage counseling, and would be willing to discuss things in a private forum.

Either way...Good luck!

She is 7+mos pregnant so I'm not going to argue with her!


Congratulations to you and your wife...

Don't even try to rationalize PMS...Two quotes I find a lot of truth in:

1. Jack Nicholson as a womens author: I think like a man..Then I take away reason and accountability to think like a woman..

2. Anything that bleeds for a week straight and doesn't die, is something to mean to tangle with.

Originally Posted by DCasper

She is 7+mos pregnant so I'm not going to argue with her!


Congratulations to you and your wife...

Thanks!

Originally Posted by Wintchase

2. Anything that bleeds for a week straight and doesn't die, is something to mean to tangle with.

I busted up at this one. Then my wife wanted to know what was so funny, so...with a little hesitation I read it to her. She busted up! That's a great line.

Not to be too judgemental, but this is the ladies corner on a gentlemen's forum. I'm just sayin'...

Originally Posted by raneyday

Not to be too judgemental, but this is the ladies corner on a gentlemen's forum. I'm just sayin'...

You are correct sir, I didn't see that this was in the ladies corner..I apologize for my crassness..Sometimes I speak in locker room terms without thinking.